How to ask your mentors for help

How to ask your mentors(ˈmenˌtôr, ˈmenˌtər) for help

By Derek Sivers

I have three mentors.

When I’m stuck on a problem and need their help, I take the time to write a good description of my dilemma(diˈlemə, dīˈlemə), before reaching out to them. I summarize(ˈsəməˌrīz) the context(ˈkänˌtekst), the problem, my options, and thoughts on each. I make it as succinct(sə(k)ˈsiNG(k)t) as possible so as not to waste(wāst) their time.

Before sending it, I try to predict what they’ll say. Then I go back and update what I wrote to address these obvious points in advance. Finally, I try again to predict what they’ll say to this, based on what they’ve said in the past and what I know of their philosophy(fəˈläsəfē).

Then, after this whole process, I realize I don’t need to bother them because the answer is now clear.

If anything, I might email to thank them for their continued inspiration(ˌinspəˈrāSHən).

Truth is, I’ve hardly talked with my mentors in years. None of them know they are my mentors. And one doesn’t know I exist(igˈzist).

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