Tolerance Is Resistance to Love

Tolerance(ˈtäl(ə)rəns) Is Resistance to Love

By Steve Pavlina

One of the traps(traps) that’s easy to fall into is filling your life with too many incompatibilities(ˈˌinkəmˌpadəˈbilədē, ˈˌiNGkəmˌpadəˈbilədē) — people, places, objects, circumstances(-stəns,ˈsərkəmˌstans), and activities that just don’t mesh(meSH) with the person you are on the inside.

When your external reality is out of sync(siNGk) with your inner self, your inner self will resist it. This creates the feeling of wanting to escape your circumstances. You may feel powerless to make big changes, but deep down you’ll still sense a strong desire to “get out” and leave parts of your reality behind. You’ll fantasize(ˈfan(t)əˌsīz) about quitting(kwit) your job, moving out, or ending a relationship.

It’s easy to lose(lo͞oz) years of your life while surrounded by incompatible energies(ˈenərjē). This problem is so common that some people just consider it normal. They figure it’s normal to dread(dred) going to work or to feel disconnected from the people around them. This may be common, but it certainly isn’t a healthy situation.

When you look at the different parts of your life — your career(kəˈri(ə)r), health, relationships, spiritual practice, daily habits, and finances(ˈfīnans, fəˈnans) — and ask, “Is this really me?” do you hear some no’s? How long have you been tolerating(ˈtäləˌrāt) these incompatibilities? Why don’t you simply kick(kik) them out of your life, so you can replace them with something more compatible(kəmˈpadəb(ə)l)?

Some people think it’s a good thing to tolerate the parts of life they don’t like. That’s dumb(dəm). Tolerance isn’t acceptance(əkˈseptəns). Tolerance is resistance. To be more specific, tolerance is resistance to love.

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